I just finished Certain to Win.  The book cover Boyd's OODA Loop as it applies to war and business.

This was my first exposure to Boyd's work.

The thing I loved about the book was that it focused on the "Implicit Guidance and Control" aspect of the loop and how to build this.

Implicit Guidance and Control is a fancy way of saying intuition.

Your team know what you want to happen without you saying a word.

You know what your team needs without them saying a word.

It comes from having a shared set of principles, common vision and "being in the trenches" together.

As I was reading this, I started to wonder about the notion of intuition in personal relationships as well.

As I think about it the most successful friendships and marriages are largely based on intuition.

This reminded me of Hofstadter's I Am a Strange Loop, where he talked about the death of his wife.

After she was gone, a "part" of her was still with him (At work, I call this the XXX [insert person's name] VM).

This reminded me of part of a great poem by Rumi:

Happy the moment when we are seated in the Palace, thou and I,

 

With two forms and with two figures but with one soul, thou and I.

 

The colours of the grove and the voice of the birds will bestow immortality

 

At the time when we come into the garden, thou and I

 

The stars of heaven will come to gaze upon us;

 

We shall show them the Moon itself, shall be mingled in ecstasy,

 

Joyful and secure from foolish babble, thou and I.